Chris Martin split with Gwyneth Paltrow in an act of “conscious uncoupling.” But they still go on vacation with their kids together. He said he still wakes up down some days, but that he has the tools to turn things around. And rather than coming at it with aggression and blame, he “puts himself in the garage” – which means to take yourself apart, clean off the bits; reassemble. He read this poem for a year to deal with his unhappiness and transform it.
The Guest House by Rumi
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.